MCT Series - part 3 - Fear

In order to know how to manage and clear (get rid of) negative emotions, we need to understand several things including:

• What exactly are feelings (ie, what do they feel like and where are they located in your body?)
• What are the causes of the emotion (including the 'surface' and 'root' causes)
• What are the harmful consequences of emotions (so you have an impetus for wanting to stop experiencing them)
• The important...

MCT Series - part 2 - Grief

In order to know how to manage and clear (get rid of) negative emotions, we need to understand several things including:

• What exactly are feelings (ie, what do they feel like and where are they located in your body?)
• What are the causes of the emotion (including the 'surface' and 'root' causes)
• What are the harmful consequences of emotions (so you have an impetus for wanting to stop experiencing them)
• The important...

MCT Series - part 1 - Anger

In order to know how to manage and clear (get rid of) negative emotions, we need to understand several things including:

• What exactly is this feeling (ie, what does it feel like and where do you feel it in your body?)
• What are the causes of the anger (including the 'surface' and 'root' causes)
• What are the harmful consequences of this emotion (so you have an impetus for wanting to stop experiencing it)
• The intelligent role emotions play in safe-guarding...

"If you are stressed about things going on in your life, and you are unable to digest those issues, then those emotions are going to get stuck in your tissues... literally".

Even in our supposedly 'oh-so advanced' 21st century modern society, it is still a relatively little-known fact that all of our stress and unresolved hurts are registered and stored in our organs, tissues and cells. 

Most people have no idea how ongoing dis-ease eventually turns into disease, and...

"It can be a kick in the guts to come to terms with the truth that as part of being on the receiving end of narcissism, we have unconsciously developed our own narcissistic tendencies".

Exploring Narcissism (part 3)

As one moves forward to heal from the effects and consequences of being on the receiving end of a narcissist's behaviour, and all the emotional healing which goes with that, at some point in our journey we may be forced to face an uncomfortable and as yet unrecognized...

 "For the first time, I understood what psychological abuse was, and how ‘victims’ are terrified of leaving their abuser… because of the terror from childhood which was still inside me".

Exploring Narcissism (part 1)

Growing up

I grew up with a narcissistic mother, but (as is very common) did not know it at the time. In fact it wasn't until I was about 12, when I heard a school friend describing her relationship with her mother, that I even started to question...

100 people A DAY are diagnosed with cancer in New Zealand. That's 3,000 people a month.

What is really sad about this is that for most people this is what will happen:

1. They will be shocked and traumatized by the diagnosis.

2. Their nervous system will flip into fear, which automatically puts more stress on the body's systems, which in turn hampers the body's ability to self-heal, because the body needs a certain level of 'calm' for the auto-healing response to kick in. In fact, returning...

The devastation of childhood emotional neglect

'In an effort to fill the emotional void inside, we will either turn to substances to numb the pain (drugs, tobacco, alcohol, medication, food etc) or distract ourselves with external habits such as shopping, extreme sports, over-working - anything which takes our attention off ourselves so we don't have to recognize, acknowledge and feel the excruciating emotional hurt buried in our heart'. 

Recently I went to see...